My Wife Lalitha thinks....
                      If I save the money or give the
money to Lalitha (my wife)to save, then
neither she nor I would be able to spend it
for our personal joy and satisfaction. She
might not be able to spend her savings for
items that will benefit her because she has
no ambitions to show off her richness. One of
the joys of being rich is the ability to show it
off for every one to see.

                     Even if she were to spend the
money for gold jewelery, cosmetics, kitchen
utensils, domestic appliances, cars, yachts,
high rise buildings, two seater planes, then
she can not utilise them without my help. It
is I who will end up servicing these items for
her. You know very well that I have no
interest in these things. Even to enjoy a
good meal in a posh restaurant, it is I who
will have to escort her to the place. It is
unfortunate that Lalitha is married to an
ascetic like me. I can not change my ascetic
nature. She can not divorce me either,
because it is too late now.

                     My joy lies in the twin
objective of austerity in my living and joyous
expenditure. One can not live austerely and
at the same time spend his money for his
personal luxury.
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                         Although I have created the
parivar, the parivar is not my primary
objective. It is only a mechanism to spend
my surplus for my pleasure and satisfaction
without losing my austerity. What I do is the
so-called joyous austerity.
                         One more thing. The Adyar
Gopal parivar is made of people who are
not rich in the sense of the word. They
are all ordinary people. The richest among
them do not attend the meetings. The
others who attend the meeting do not
come there for begging. They come for
some sort of enjoyment that is available
by meeting their relatives and for gossip.
When I hold the lottery it gives some sort
of playful pleasure to all. When I give
away small amounts like 5 to 10 dollars to
students it only gives them the joy of
receiving a gift. The money I give is so
small that it can not sustain them even for
a day. When the food is served it is only
the joy of eating together that is gained.
They do not come there for food which
they would not get elsewhere.
                         It is sad that Lalitha objects
to this activity of mine tooth and nail. But
I am not perturbed. When I do these
things completely voluntarily there is no
sadness if I miss it for any reason. I am
happy if I can organise a meeting with the
cooperation of Lalitha. But if she does not
cooperate then I do not hate her for it. I
will still manage to get things done
without rocking the boat too much.
The only way to stop her from feeling bad
is to bring an end to the extra income. But
that would be foolish.

Adyar Gopal and Radha Bai
My Wife Lalitha thinks....
An Observation
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By Mohan Shenoy